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Kids, You Can't Always Get What You Want: W hen Kris and I married, Kris was 27 and I was 38 although I was about to turn 39 in a few weeks. Kris's birthday is a little less than 3 weeks after Christmas and our wedding anniversary is less than 3 weeks after her birthday and then my birthday is 3 weeks after our anniversary. Our major celebrations, starting with Christmas all happen in less than 2 months. While it's happening it seems like they are on top of each other but then I get the rest of the year off where I don't have to think about it. As an adult I have never been big on presents or for that matter holidays. Kris has learned to curb or at least lower any expectations these things might foster for her in regards to me. We've been together over 38 years, so for better or worse Kris has managed to cope with the way I am. W e bought a house and moved to Rocklin after we married, thinking we probably had a good chance of getting an IT job in the area...

My Mid-Life Crisis A year or so after I reached the “ripe old” age of 40 I began to freak-out a little. I still didn't know what I wanted to do for career. I had been putting off that decision since high school and that was over 20 years ago. For the life of me I just never had been able to figure it out and hence, I kept putting it off. A s a male growing up in the 50's and 60's there was always an expectation that I needed to decide what I wanted to be when I grew up. I only wanted to be a grown-up me. I have never been much of a planner and frankly, having to make a decision about something that would define the rest of my life was intimidating and a bit overwhelming. The message I was getting was I had to learn how to do something that would result in me getting a job where I could earn enough money to not only support myself but also take care of a wife and a family. My view of the working world was pretty limited and I failed to see anything that fit me, c...